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September 28, 1979 in Detroit,
Michigan...... It was supposed to be what doctors and nurses
thought would be another normal delivery of a baby. Although
the labor went pretty well for Kimberly (my mother), she needed
a C-Section just as she did with her first son. Come time of
the operation, doctors and nurses prepared for hopefully another
healthy baby. But her actual delivery was a surprise to them.
Although the baby seemed to be healthy, something else became
a big concern. My mother didn't know what was going on with
her newborn for the doctors immediately took the baby away for
more observation. After a little while, she became hysterical
not knowing what was going on with her son. The doctors returned
with some news that would change her life forever. The doctors
told her, your baby boy is healthy, but there is something
that we need to tell you. He was born with what we call Quadrimembral
Limb Deficiency. Not understanding what the doctor was
talking about, he explained in more detail. Your son was
born with arms that only go to the elbows, he has no hands nor
fingers, his legs are also much shorter than normal, and his
feet are not like ours, he only has three toes. When they
brought me to my mother, she was just happy that I was in her
arms and was a healthy little baby. From that day forward, started
my journey to life.
Since it was over 20+ years ago,
they didn't have the equipment that they do these days to predetermine
that there was a problem. So they did a lot of testing to both
my mother and father and found that this was just an act
of God. Not only did they do a lot of testing on them,
they used me as a guinea pig to determine the cause since there
were very few born like me. From day one, they prepared my parents
for the worst. The physical therapist and doctors told them
that it was most likely I would not be able to do things like
normal kids do. They said I wouldnt be able
to go to a regular school, drive a wheelchair, and definitely
never walk. My mother was disgusted by what they told her, she
felt in her heart that no matter what I may and may not be able
to do, I was still her son and we would get through it. And
get through it we did, we proved them wrong from the start.
When I was seven months old, I
was fitted for prosthetic arms, which was a big mistake. These
arms were so uncomfortable and heavy that my I hated having
them on. But the therapists insisted I keep them on all the
time and said I would eventually get use to them.
But because of them, I eventually had to undergo nine surgeries
throughout my life because the bones in my arms started to grow
through my skin.
When I was three, I had my first
chance at independence. The students of the University of Michigan
built a power wheelchair especially for me. But once again,
the doctors doubted my ability and told my parents that I probably
wouldn't be able to drive the wheelchair, I proved them wrong.
I got into it and for the first time I felt free, not having
to depend on anyone else to help me get around. I drove that
thing like a pro. I was one of the youngest kids to ever drive
a power wheelchair.
As a child, I didn't see myself
as a person with a disability, I saw myself as a regular
kid. I never let my disability take away from my life.
Any obstacle that was put in front of me was almost always overcome.
I went to a regular school and had normal kid friends,
I wrote and drew things by putting the pencil between my chin
and shoulder, and I got around in my wheelchair. It wasnt
untill I was about five or six when I finally realized I was
different. But I had a talent, a talent to draw and a talent
to make people laugh and smile. People would stare and kids
would say things, but that was OK. All I would have to do was
show these people that I was no different from them, aside from
my visible differences. Soon after a few minutes of talking
with me, my disability faded.
When I was 15 years old, I found
out that with enough money I would be able to drive a van. This
would be my goal for the next three years. I had to come up
with $36,000 just for the adaptations that needed to be made
to a van. When I turned 18 I had already financed the van, but
I just needed the money for the adaptations. Then a government
sponsored group, Michigan Rehabilitation Services, gave me half
of the money. The other half of the money was raised for me
by four Detroit Red Wings, at an autograph signing. Again, I
shocked the world by being one of the first people to drive
a vehicle with a disability as severe as mine.
One day hanging out with some
friends, I met this beautiful girl named Carrie, and we started
dating. We dated for about nine months and I knew in my heart
that she was the one that I wanted to marry. On Mothers Day
2000, I asked her to marry me, and she said yes. Today we have
a beautiful, healthy son (Noah) who was born in 2001 and happens
to have no dissabilities.
I am a currently a web designer, that
is how I use my artistic ability. But now I seek more out of
life. I want to put my personality to use becoming an actor,
movie director and being a motivational speaker. I want to show
the world that they should put their problems behind them instead
of in front of them. I lived my whole life by setting goals
and accomplishing them. And when my latest goals of becoming
an actor, movie director and motivational speaker are accomplished,
you wont have to ask me, believe me youll know.
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